Friday, August 1, 2008

Impatience or Divine Anticipation?

Recently one of my coaching clients and I were speaking of impatience and what a feeling of impatience can do us as we go about living our lives...

Having a constant sense of impatience for something to happen in our lives is very common and in many ways quite natural. We all strive to see what the future will bring and that is not necessarily a bad thing, but in our desire to speed up the natural flow it can actually keep us stuck.

Whether it be wanting a relationship that we dream of to be here now or if it is needing a resolution to a problem, the feeling of impatience actually halts the natural process of growth. Impatience keeps us from living totally in the Now of life and from being in touch with our authentic selves and moment by moment impulses.

If we are constantly putting our focus on something in the future, we will inevitably fail to see, feel and react to what is right in front of us. And many times it is the things that are right in front of us that will help us deal with or solve the problems we are being impatient about.
In general, impatience comes from our need to control the outcome or resolution of a certain situation. We may want a person to do what we want them to do. We may want a scenario in our lives to go the way in which we want them to go. Whatever it may be it is a form of control and not flow.

When we have flow in our lives it is not as if we don't look forward to events and situations. We do but without a sense of trying to figure it out and more importantly trying to get the result that we think is the best.

When we begin to let go of results and stay in the flow of moment by moment living, a beautiful thing begins to happen. Instead of impatience, a sense of what I call, divine anticipation begins to manifest in our lives. The more we are in tune with our thoughts, feelings and actions of the present NOW, the more impatience begins to diminish.

The best way to describe divine anticipation is what we have as children at Christmas time. Remember that feeling when you were so excited about Christmas morning? You couldn't wait for it to come and you knew it would.
Divine anticipation is the positive result of letting go of impatience. Divine anticipation is the thrilling sense that something is coming. You may not know specifically what it is that's
coming, but you know it is! It is always exciting, positive and gives you energy.

On a practical level, when I begin to be aware of myself become impatient over anything (the key word there is aware), I will try and take those feelings of anxiety, fear and trepidation for the outcome and redirect the strong energy that is coming from the impatience toward creating something positive in the present moment. For instance I may go for a run and align myself with all that is working so beautifully in the NOW. Or one of my favorite ways to redirect that energy is to do something for another person like to write a friend a note saying how much I appreciate them in my life.

Whatever may work for you to take the inpatient energy of future results and shift it ever so slightly into energy for the present moment, over time you will begin to have unexpected and joyous waves of the Divine Anticipation.

Have a Beautifully fulfilling NOW.......